The Town Hall Archives

poWerBoy · Posted: Thu Mar 31, 2005 4:16 pm Post subject:

Your welcome!! Very Happy

Tianlet · Posted: Sun Apr 10, 2005 3:19 pm Post subject:

This is an old thread, but I feel like reviving it, so Very Happy

One of my friends and I were asked out about the same time. I decided not to date because I knew that I didn't want to spend that much time exclusively dating one person. She started dating her guy and broke up two and a half months later because she found that she couldn't take the exclusive relationship. She had liked the guy when he and she were with a group of friends just hanging out, but she couldn't hang out with just him. Yesterday I called my dad on the phone and we were talking about stuff, and he said, "It's almost impossible to find the perfect friend," and I said, "If I find the perfect friend, I'll marry him." But I think ultimately that's the best way to do it (not that I have anything against dating per say, but marrying a friend is better than marrying a date.

Guest · Posted: Mon Apr 11, 2005 12:13 pm Post subject:

When your out of college you should start dating.
Having friend with the opposite sex is the best thing until then.
You should know yourself and wait to find that special someone.

16 is to young for a one on one date. It should be done with a youth group if you deside to go out.

Start praying for your mate that God has instored for you. It might end up that you are not meant to marry. Seek God in prayer!

Elrohir · New Citizen Joined: 12 Mar 2005 Posts: 75

for my two cents, well, all I can say about dating is something that I heard Dr. Tony Evans say that really stuck with me. He said that a Christian shouldn't date because he/she is looking for the right person, but because they've found the right person. He elaborated more, said something about if it's God's will for you to get married then he'll show you who you should marry.

Mandy Straussberg · Posted: Mon Apr 11, 2005 6:41 pm Post subject:

How should I summarize my thoughts without repeating myself terribly? Ummm....

I think no dating should take place until both parties are old enough for marriage and spiritually, emotionally, and financially ready to be married. A guy shouldn't date until he has been through college and has a job (can support a family). I think dating before these have been met is immature and shows an inherent lack of trust in God (because they can't and/or won't wait for God to bring the right person and/or grow them up). I abhor highschool dating.

While I will opt for the "courtship" route, if both parties are mature and ready for marriage, I don't care whether they're dating, courting, or betrothed. (Not that anybody ever asks my opinion...)

Mandy

Arwen · Posted: Mon Apr 11, 2005 7:50 pm Post subject:

I think I agree with what you just said, pretty much. If you want to "date" ask yourself: "Am I ready for marriage?" Then, if you are, you should wait (not look, just wait) until you are friends with a guy, and you both feel that GOD is leading you two to pursue a long term relationship. Even then, I still think that there should be definate boundries placed on the relationship.

Continental Admiral · Ornery Member Joined: 14 Nov 2003 Posts: 867

Sort of off-topic, but I just found out today that my great-grandparents eloped. Perhaps this isn't shocking news to everyone else, but this shocked and appalled me. They were rather young, and weren't exactly able to provide for a family but they made it work, nonetheless. I wouldn't be here if they hadn't, after all. (While I'm sure that many enjoy the thought of me not being here, please hold in your shouts of joy at such a thought.) Wink

When my father married my mother, he hadn't been through college. I presume this makes him someone who has an inherent lack of trust in God. I mean, they got married six months after knowing each other. Wink

(Yes, I'm being ornery.)

Edit: Please note that I'm not saying that marriage at a young age is best for all. And some should wait until after college, yes. But I don't believe it automatically means that someone is lacking in trust of God if they don't wait until after college. While in some cases, I can see the fact that some people neglected to wait -- and the outcome has been bad, I wouldn't group them all together. Oh, yes, I'm being my objective self.

Laura Ingalls · New Citizen Joined: 12 Mar 2005 Posts: 73 Location: VA

I believe that the Bible supports the idea of courtship, not dating.

I agree with the definition of courtship put forward by hawkeye in the early pages of this thread. Smile

Jared · Posted: Tue Apr 12, 2005 9:33 am Post subject: