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rayeO'sunshine · Posted: Sun Mar 20, 2005 2:51 pm Post subject:

I dunno if this is a point you all want to hear again, but I had an example I just thought I'd mention.

Being courteous by opening a door is nice, but opening a door when
someone is struggling with a load of stuff is just common courtesy! I
mean come on! The other day I was carrying quite a load of instruments,
(kinda dumb on my part I guess... Rolling Eyes

) it was a real awkward load. I
came upon the door of my destination. (it was one of those glass doors
that you can see thru) There was a guy, not to much older than me
standing there waiting for someone. I had a ridiculously hard time
opening the door Red Face

. (didn't even think to set anything down, I'm
so dumb.. Brick wall

) But anyways all he did was look at me like "hmm, look
what the cat dragged in."

*sigh* There, I was kinda mad, but now I have it out of my system.
Aaand that's what I wanted to do Anxious

(lol, you can all laugh now.)

-Rach 8)

Carolita · Posted: Mon Mar 21, 2005 1:14 pm Post subject:

anna k · Posted: Wed Mar 23, 2005 2:45 pm Post subject:

I really appreciate chivalry. I think it's sweet and considerate when guys open doors for girls and let them go first, etc.
That is one of the things that I appreciate about my church- the guys there are very chivalrous.

Catspaw · Posted: Wed Mar 23, 2005 9:03 pm Post subject:

Today an excellent example of chivalry occurred. I was about to walk out of a room but a guy was moving a long fold-up table. We got near the door at the same time, so I immediately stopped to let him go first, because he was carrying something. Instead of going, he told me to go, saying that it would take a while to get through the door with the table because the door is near a corner. I thought that was a good way of being nice to somebody else, without seeing overdone or making a good thing annoying. (For clarification - I am a girl, just in case someone was wondering as they read the story).

GusDeHaan · Posted: Thu Mar 24, 2005 1:11 am Post subject:

Catspaw · Posted: Thu Mar 24, 2005 10:14 am Post subject:

GusDeHaan · Posted: Thu Mar 24, 2005 11:09 am Post subject:

Tianlet · Posted: Thu Mar 24, 2005 5:19 pm Post subject:

I only read the first two pages, and didn't have time to finish, but:

I am at a Bible college and the chivalry here (if that's what you want to call it, I call it courtesy) is carried off almost w/ nonchalance. Every guy opens a door for any girl that is walking toward one, even if he has to go out of his way to do it. Once I saw a young man dash toward a door to open it for a woman who was walking in from outside and slump dejectedlly when he didn't make it in time. Granted, some people carry that one too far--like when another guy hung around this particular girl constantly just to open doors for her so she would notice him.

When female singers approach the platform during chapel services, the pastors, song leader, and other men on the platform stand until they have reached the podium, and then they stand as the ladies leave. That is, in my opinion, only courtesy.

I do think that proper gentlemen open car doors for ladies, offer to carry anything they are carrying (unless it's, say, a drink), and stand until a lady is seated. They should also give up their seat on a bus, or in a waiting area if that is necessary. Such things are slowly disappearing, but I hope that the young men coming to school here are being trained to keep it from dying altogether. (I'm going to school in Indiana, too, so it isn't just limited to the south, southern girl though I may be)

Oh, and a thank you by the lady--that's a matter of course.

Rachael Blackgaard · Posted: Sat Mar 26, 2005 9:26 am Post subject:

I not only appreciate Chilvalry, I expect it from anyone who wants to go out with me. Not that I date now, but it's always good to have standards even if you're not seeing anyone.