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Rachael Blackgaard · Posted: Fri Jan 21, 2005 10:55 am Post subject: My best friend is in danger

My best friend of six years is going out with a guy who has definite anger problems. She told me he's physically abusive (though not to her) and wants them to get engaged sometime this year. She's not even sixteen yet! I did some research and found out that abusive men often try to get the relationship to go really fast, which is what it sounds like he's doing.

I just wrote her an email, and I'm hoping she won't get mad. I'm just so worried about her! She's always been really friendly and outgoing, and I don't want to think about her hiding inside her house with a black eye.

Please pray for me to have wisdom to know what to say to her and for her to be receptive to it.

happysmiler · Posted: Fri Jan 21, 2005 5:05 pm Post subject:

I will definately be praying for her! And for you, that you would have wisdom to know how to help her.

Continental Admiral · Ornery Member Joined: 14 Nov 2003 Posts: 867

I'll be praying.

Bearliz · Posted: Sat Jan 22, 2005 3:32 pm Post subject:

I will be too.

Kanimoto · Posted: Sat Jan 22, 2005 3:53 pm Post subject:

Aye, and I will, also

Rachael Blackgaard · Posted: Wed Feb 02, 2005 9:07 pm Post subject:

Thanks for praying. She said she's in control of the situation and won't let it go any further unless this guy gets help. She's coming over soon, so maybe I can see what's really going on. Emailing a couple of times a week just isn't the same...

Blair · Just Moved In Joined: 31 Jan 2005 Posts: 14

Dear Rachael...
I don't even know where to begin with this matter other than I do know with all my heart that the power of prayer can lead her out of this horrible thing. When I was 17 years old, I was in a really bad abusive relationship, though I never told anyone since I was new to my area and I didn't want anyone to think that I was just out to cause problems, so I just kept the whole thing to myself. Finally one day one of my friends was over at my former b/f's house with me and they witnessed him push me down some stairs. Moments like that, I thank God that the window of opportunity came around for me not to say anything, but his actions woudl speak louder than my words.
The thing with your friend, she may not even be seeing what you are seeing in this relationship. Take the advice giving slow and pray for a way to know when would be good for her to recieve your words. When I was in my time of trouble, I never even realized how bad things were till I woke up and litterally snapped out of it. I just thought that for once someone truly cared about me and wanted me to be happy and in that I figured how he treated me was just b/c he was stressed from work or whatever...BOY WAS I WRONG!!
My advice, be a friend and try to get her to talk about her relationship with you and try to be understanding, but if the situation arises, tell her how you feel!! Thats all I have to say about that!!!!!

Respectahobbit · Posted: Fri Feb 04, 2005 4:08 am Post subject:

I hope everything goes ok, I'll be praying. Surprised

Jarem11 · Posted: Sun Feb 13, 2005 1:32 pm Post subject:

I shall pray. hope everything goes alright.